23 Little Ways You Know Someone Actually Loves You

1. They act the same way around you as
they do around their friends.
2. They would go out of their way to
bring you food and medicine and walk
your dog when you're sick, even though
your place is in the exact opposite
direction than would otherwise be
convenient to them — and they
wouldn't consider it going out of the
way.
3. They're not afraid to call you on your
bullshit, but do it in a way that is kind
and not judgmental.
4. They don't freak out if you don't text
them in x amount of hours, because
they feel solid and confident in what
you have together.
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5. But they also know that if they miss
you, it's on them to text — or better yet,
call — and say hi… while not
overstepping boundaries and
bombarding you with messages
(especially if you're in a meeting).
6. They remember little random things
like the fact that you're in a meeting to
begin with, even if you only mentioned
it in passing and not so that they knew,
but rather because you were venting
about your stress level or something
only marginally related.
7. Flowers for no reason other than "just
because." (Or a steak dinner if you're a
dude or allergic to pollen or something.
But guys can receive flowers, too.)
8. They respect your right to personal
space, especially when you need your
alone time or to cool down from an
argument you both had.
9. The apology they give you (if they
were honestly in the wrong) is sincere,
and not a half-assed attempt to get you
off their back. (But also, when you
actually love them, chances are good
you won't be relentlessly reminding
them hardcore about how much they
messed up, anyway.)
10. They ask before they steal a fry off
your plate, but don't hold it against you
when you forget to ask and steal one off
of theirs.
11. If some big opportunity arises in
your life and they're not entirely okay
with it because it'd uproot both your
lives, they'll actively work to see if
there's some happy medium so that you
both can get what you want. This is
called a compromise. (And if something
huge happens in their life, they consult
with you before uprooting your world,
too.)
12. They do the chore they know you
hate so that you don't have to do it
(even if they hate it, too).
13. They respect when your opinion is
unwaveringly different from theirs, and
don't press the issue as to why they're
right and you're wrong.
14. They don't judge you for that one
verging-on-the-insane obsession they
don't share. (But like, there are limits.
Don't expect someone who loves you to
understand why you'd be a stalker.)
15. They're more concerned about how
comfortable you are than they are about
how you're stealing the covers.
16. They know that sometimes, it's the
little moments of affection — all the
hands held under the table, the inside
jokes and glances that nobody else will
notice — that matter most.
17. But they're also not ashamed to kiss
you in public and then post a selfie of it
to Instagram every now and again.
18. They'll share the last bite of
something, whether they're full or you
just really want to try it at the last
minute.
19. They're more ready to do
something for you than they will ask
something from you.
20. For your birthday, they'll never let it
stand that you say you "don't want
anything" or that you don't want
them "to make a big deal" — they'll do
something special for you anyway.
21. They will continually listen to you
about family and friend issues, but will
push you to make the relationship right,
because sometimes just agreeing with
you is not in your best interests. (But on
the rare occasion when you just really
need to vent, they will let you but they
will know it's not their place to join in.)
22. They don't burden you to take care
of them when they're sloppy or if
they're in a really bad situation, but
also trust you enough to let you know
what's gnawing on them and to let you
in if you show signs of wanting to carry
that load with them.
23. They're not afraid of saying they
love you, the minute it overcomes them
to say so. And whether it's the first or
thousandth (or ten thousandth) time it's
been said, no matter if it's a shout or a
whisper, it still sounds honest and
sincere and like there's no one else
they'd ever rather say it to.